It’s a common misconception that only females are affected by domestic abuse. Over 40 percent of domestic abuse victims are male.

Domestic abuse comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes, but they are all very dangerous. Types of abuse come in a few main categories: physical, mental, and emotional abuse. Almost everyone is guilty of mistreating someone at some point, however when it becomes abuse, there’s a muddled distinction. It shouldn’t be that way.

Men deal with a lot of pressure in a relationship and it may not always be viewed that way. Men are generally seen as the abuser, the cheater, the jerk, the player, and the worst. Women are always filled with positive feedback. Women are viewed as the one who doesn’t deserve it, the heartbroken, frail, weak, loving, caring, and the one who tried to make it work.

When people are old enough to be in a mature relationship and threats are made, the situation should be reevaluated. Women can hurt and manipulate a man so very easily.

The men don’t always have to be weak or smaller figure. Sometimes the woman will use excuses to make the relationship “stronger”. When a woman is scared of the relationship, she can play with his mind and cause trauma to his abused mind. She could threaten to hurt herself, someone else, or commit suicide. Does that sound too extreme? When was the last time you’ve heard of a girl pretending she was pregnant? That kind of lie can seriously damage somebody. Granted if a couple is not mature enough to handle the consequences then they shouldn’t be having intimate relations, the fact that pregnancy is used as a trump card is ridiculous. The girl is abusing her womanhood and her significant other’s mind and emotions with her immature behavior.

Girls who self-harm are none the better. They should understand that their significant other isn’t responsible for their problems outside the relationship. Should they be sensitive? Yes. But they are by no means responsible for the way girls view themselves. If A girl self-harms it shouldn’t be something she hangs over her boyfriend’s head. Hurting yourself is a problem; it’s worse if girls use it as leverage against their boyfriends.

Suicide is just as worse to worry your boyfriend over. How is it that girls can say they will kill themselves if a boy breaks up with them? A boy is not, and should never be, your whole life. Yes, if he leaves your life, it will hurt for as long as it takes, but it won’t end you. Never allow a guy to be in that position. However, putting that kind of stress on a boyfriend should not be allowed. If you care for him you would let him go instead of chaining him to you with your mental issues.

Physical abuse isn’t thought of frequently when it comes to girls as the offenders. Who would think that a girl could ever do real damage to a guy? They can. Girls aren’t weak, frail creatures; we can put up a fight too. Hitting your significant other shouldn’t ever even be thought to cross your mind. If resulting in violence to have your boyfriend submit is something you think about…get help, seriously.